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Think of yourself as your own best friend

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Before starting soft breath mindfulness, concentrate on the breath for just a moment. Now think of yourself as your own best friend, and ...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Before starting soft breath mindfulness, concentrate on the breath for just a moment.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Now think of yourself as your own best friend, and extend to yourself the care and concern, the love and attention, that you would give a best friend. Embrace yourself as your own best friend.<br /><br />"Think of the person sitting nearest you. Be that person's best friend, extending your love and compassion, your care, and concern, to him or her.<br /><br />"Think of yourself as the best friend of everyone who is present, and extend your love and compassion, friendship, care and concern to everyone with you. Fill everyone and embrace everyone with your friendship.<br /><br />"Now think of yourself as your parents' best friend. Fill them with your love and concern, and embrace them with your friendship, letting them know how much you care.<br /><br />"Think of your nearest and dearest people, and be their best friend. Fill them with your care, your concern, and your love, embracing them with your friendship.<br /><br />"Now think of all your good friends. Let them feel that you are their best friend. Fill them with love, embrace them in friendship.<br /><br />"Think of anyone whom you find difficult to get along with or hard to love. Become that person's best friend, thereby removing all obstacles in your own heart. Embrace him or her with love and compassion.<br /><br />"Open your heart as wide as you can to as many people as possible, near and far. Let the feeling of care and concern, of love and compassion, reach out into the distance to as many beings as you can imagine, embracing them all in friendship.<br /><br />"Bring your attention back to yourself. Feel the happiness that comes from being your own best friend. The ease and harmony that you can feel comes from accepting yourself, caring for yourself, enjoying your own company, just like a best friend would.<br /><br />"May all beings be friends with each other."</span>

Think of yourself as your own best friend

Before starting soft breath mindfulness, concentrate on the breath for just a moment. Now think of yourself as your own best friend, and extend to yourself the care and concern, the love and attentio…

20 Jan 2018

Guided Meditation: 10 Stages the homecoming

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Guided Meditation: 10 Stages the homecoming "Let yourself settle into a posture of ease and balance. "Gently close your eyes and...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />Guided Meditation: 10 Stages the homecoming<br /><br />"Let yourself settle into a posture of ease and balance. <br /><br />"Gently close your eyes and settle your attention in your body and in the present moment. <br /><br />"Invite into your attention a friend who is happy or joyous. They may be delighting in the birth of a child, in recovered health after a spate of illness or in a life event that has brought a newfound happiness. <br /><br />"Sense their gladness, gratefulness, or delight as you have seen it in them. <br /><br />"Offer them a generous wish that their happiness may deepen and continue. <br /><br />"Find a few simple words or phrases that express the generosity of heart you feel for them: <br /><br />" 'May your happiness deepen.' <br /><br />" 'May your life continue to bring gladness and delight.' <br /><br />"Next invite into your attention someone whom you envy or feel some resentment towards because of the happiness they are experiencing. It may be a friend, a colleague or even someone you do not know but whom you admire and yet at the same time envy. <br /><br />"Offer to that person a generosity of kindfulness that rejoices in their gladness, accomplishments, or successes: <br /><br />" 'May your happiness deepen.' <br /><br />" 'May your gladness continue.' </span>

Guided Meditation: 10 Stages the homecoming

Guided Meditation: 10 Stages the homecoming"Let yourself settle into a posture of ease and balance. "Gently close your eyes and settle your attention in your body and in the present moment. "Invite i…

15 Jan 2018

The Origins of God: Life's building blocks observed in space environment

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Title: The Origins of God: Life's building blocks observed in space environment
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The Origins of God: Life's building blocks observed in space environment

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12 Dec 2017

It’s not over. It’s not too late. And what’s to come can be so magnificent, if we can but know that we are guided in every moment and learn to trust that guidance.

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Title: It’s not over. It’s not too late. And what’s to come can be so magnificent, if we can but know that we are guided in every moment and learn to trust that guidance.
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It’s not over. It’s not too late. And what’s to come can be so magnificent, if we can but know that we are guided in every moment and lear...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s not over. It’s not too late.<br />And what’s to come can be so magnificent, if we can but know that we are guided in every moment and learn to trust that guidance. <br /><br />There is a gap between what we know is possible in our lives and our current life circumstance. <br /><br />I think it’s a dance between the shadow self and the child within. <br /><br />That is to say, our child within and our aging human body.<br /><br />Our Child Within is Infinite, and yet we are limited. The play between these two co-existing realities creates the friction that can move life excitingly forward.<br /><br />We aspire, we aim to better ourselves, to reach a higher level – not because of the success of the money, but rather because – whether we know it or not – we aim to embody our Child Withins potential here on Earth.<br /><br />That potential is nothing short of Infinite. That our child within is the embodiment of Love. That potential means we are free. That potential is connected to  ourselves and others. That potential knows that we never walk alone and that we are indeed truly limitless.<br /><br /> <br />Yet – at the exact same time, we are limited. We are fragile. We are imperfect, broken at times and not connected. We are not free.<br /><br /> <br />It is the purpose of life to reconnect to our Child located within in what seems to be a limited life. <br /><br />To do this, we must begin to see the circumstances of our lives with the new eyes of our child within.<br /><br />We can choose to see that, even in hardship, we can find our Child hidden within.<br /><br /> <br />When we find our Child, we can know that we are not alone.<br /><br /> Our loneliness is our Child calling us. And that instead of medicating our pain in dissociation , to face it.<br /><br />We can find ourselves stuck. And we are stuck because we are not honouring this calling out of our Child. <br /><br />The way to honour our child is not just with green juice dissociation, gluten free food and yoga – but with our courageous contact.<br /><br /><i>The fear of truthful action directed by ourselves that terrifies our mind.</i><br /> <br />If we want to look at what we really know, look inside our actions and dissociations.<br /><br /><i>Knowing something and understanding something are two different things. </i><br />Let’s switch from understanding to embodying our child withins calling.<br /><br />Take that risk. Trust ourselves. Love ourselves. Embody our Child Withins calling. Take risks on behalf of our Child.<br /><br />We will become intuitively guided; we are and naturally have power and authority.<br /><br />The best is truly yet to come if we can but trust our intuitive voice.<br /><br />When it feels like nothing is happening, know that many times our Child is silently working within us before we can see anything change externally, but others can.<br /><br />Get in Contact. And know that in this moment – we are exactly where we’re supposed to be. </span><br />
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It’s not over. It’s not too late. And what’s to come can be so magnificent, if we can but know that we are guided in every moment and learn to trust that guidance.

It’s not over. It’s not too late.And what’s to come can be so magnificent, if we can but know that we are guided in every moment and learn to trust that guidance. There is a gap between what we know …

10 Dec 2017

10Stages as a practice is a renewed approach to life

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Title: 10Stages as a practice is a renewed approach to life
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10Stages as a practice is a renewed approach to life based on the following: We cannot control what randomly appears in our life, we do ha...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">10Stages as a practice is a renewed approach to life based on the following:<br /><br />We cannot control what randomly appears in our life, we do have choice about how we work with it.<br /><br />We can have an aware, accepting, curious, and compassionate relationship to our life whether circumstances are the way we like them or not.<br /><br />A deep healing relationship to our life that we want is a consistent calming practice. Our brain is constantly rewiring itself to become more skilled at whatever we do repeatedly.<br /><br /> <br />The cornerstones of a 10Stage Working Practice are:<br />Life Presence: Bringing kindness (Loving-Kindfulness) awareness and acceptance to our internal and external experiences.</span><div>
<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Life Purpose: Connecting to values, goals, commitments rebuilding relationships with the self and others </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Life Choice: Exercising freedom and accepting our responsibility<br /><br /> <br />Some of the powerful benefits of 10Stage Practice :<br /><br />We develop a greater ability to focus attention and energy on what matters most<br /><br />We develop a graceful and effective relationship to stress, anxiety, distraction, and setback.<br /><br />We manifest a deep connection with ourselves our child within and others through clear, kind and assertive communication<br /><br />We increase our clarity of values, goals, and commitments with a strong commitment to truth.</span><div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #666666; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 20px; margin-bottom: 20px;">
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10Stages as a practice is a renewed approach to life

10Stages as a practice is a renewed approach to life based on the following:We cannot control what randomly appears in our life, we do have choice about how we work with it.We can have an aware, acce…

10 Dec 2017

Our minds as adult survivors of trauma are similar to a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. - The Ten Stages

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Title: Our minds as adult survivors of trauma are similar to a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. - The Ten Stages
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Our minds as adult survivors of trauma are similar to a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. - The Ten Stages

Our minds as adult survivors of trauma are similar to a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. - The Ten Stages

Our minds as adult survivors of trauma are similar to a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. - The Ten Stages…

05 Dec 2017

UDATED STAGE ONE, Escaping the Killer Shadow Self. This is an evolving long form of Stage one of the ten stages

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Title: UDATED STAGE ONE, Escaping the Killer Shadow Self. This is an evolving long form of Stage one of the ten stages
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We admit that the traumas buried in our unconscious rule our lives, makes us powerless to embody the truth, and drives us to act out in w...

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Our self-constructed make up has many different functioning parts. Years ago when we first started exploring our interior world through self-expression , we were astounded to discover all of the different parts of self that we have inside of us. As various aspects spilled out through our spontaneous experimentation with emotional collages, writings, drawings and paintings, we saw that not only did we have parts of different ages and temperaments inside, but also we had masculine and feminine aspects of self that were all struggling for expression. These became the make-up of the transitional child within often hidden within a private hidden subconscious<br /><br /><br />The many self-constructed parts that we had so expertly tucked away out of sight in the aim of living a perceived highly functioning life. Were often younger, more hidden and hurting parts of our life. There are many parts that we had exiled away because they judged unacceptable showing the true face of being emotionally needy describing a life of sorrow, loss, shame, fear, hurt, and anger.<br />So how do we manage our Emotional Pain threshholds<br /><br />Popular acceptable therapy does not readily acknowledge that we all have a host of different characters inside our consciousness. Perhaps because we fear the idea of having many different parts inside of a fragmented mind this can lead to the stigma of Multiple Personality Disorder or as it is now called, <i>Dissociative Identity Disorder.</i><br />The reasoning behind this is that we have many personality parts is because we each create ingenious psychological mechanisms to hold and protect against feeling our unprocessed emotional pain. <i>It is possible to directly process emotional pain without dissociation</i>, so that there is no need for "fragmented parts work". Most of us can only process the emotional pain of human experience gradually. Working with dissociated parts is a gentle and creative way to slowly unravel emotional and psychological pain.<br /><br /><br />When we understand that we have a rich multiplicity of fragmentation inside us and that do not have to dissociate away from this variety in our human nature to appear "sane." Understanding and integrating all of the different fragmented parts of ourselves can be creative and even fun. We each find profound ways to manage the emotional pain from our past. All of us have various hidden selves that have different strategies to deal with emotional hurt and physical trauma.<br /><br /><br /> Most profoundly, we each have access to the child within that we were born with that can witness the multiplicity of our emotional pain and dissociated system with great care, creativity, and curiosity. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Our Child Within is the dynamic and eternal energy force that not only can witness the emotionality of our personality parts, but can also lead them, love them enough to heal and re-integrate, as well as encourage the gifts and strengths that they are meant to bring into our lives...No Part of our child within is bad or to blame for our situation.<br /><br /><br />Understanding that we have many different fragmented selves inside can free us to creatively balance ourselves. Our multiplicity, once harmonised and accepted, makes us into one whole <i>perfect</i> child within that can function with aliveness, integrity, and love. And, each part, when its strengths are recognised, can be a talent in our daily life, when outer circumstances require their unique gifts and skills.<br /><br /><br />All of our fragmented parts are a valuable part of our inner ecosystem and they all want to play constructive inner roles. Problems arise when our inner aspects are forced into extreme roles, and influenced by trauma and respect abuse, shaming, repression, rejection, disapproval, or challenges in our outer false family systems. Current outer stress can activate our child within in extreme ways as well.<br /><br />Most of us silently struggle with what we might call our "inner demons". We might secretly fear that we are crazy when the various repressed emotional parts of ourselves become activated. Sometimes our forbidden needs, feelings and desires leak out and we are surprised at our behaviour. It is common to hear people say after they do or say something extreme, "I just wasn't myself."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">.....................<br /><br /><br />Many of us live highly controlled lives with only occasional emotional lapses into the intensity of our old emotional pain. As we navigate through our lives, we develop very honed and controlled managerial parts of self that keep us functioning, working, paying the bills, and navigating our family dynamics. To stuff away the emotional pain that we are afraid to feel, we might take actions that are "not like ourselves." When we do something "crazy" or become flooded emotionally, our managerial parts of self become overwhelmed and lose control.<br /><br /><br />Because we repress what we cannot accept about ourselves, the hidden and rejected parts of our personality tend to distort themselves into what we call our "inner demons." Any feeling, need, urge or behaviour trait that was disallowed in the past becomes exiled from our awareness. Yet whatever is forcibly exiled still exists and always threatens to erupt. Our entire personality organises around keeping unacceptable needs and emotions sublimated.<br /><br /><br />We have many personalities that grew out of disrespect and broken bonding. All of our personalities compete, have different goals, are conflicted, and subtly stop us from receiving gifts. The bigger the trauma, the larger the fractures we have inside, and the more independently these selves will operate.<br /><br />Our original Child Within is the inherent nature of the creative human mind that protects itself in ingenious ways. We all have an indeterminate number of sub-personalities, each having their own age, desires, temperaments, desires, goals, and talents. These sub-personalities form our inner family system. And, each part of ourselves - when accepted, listened to and tended to - has a powerful and particular strength to bring to our daily functioning lives.<br /><br /><br />When we wish to explore our Child Within self-expression and can create a safe space for emotional releasing, we can begin to creatively understand and map out how we operate on the inside. We can learn how to be inclusive of all of our dissociated parts, and discover the gifts and strengths inherent in the currently extreme and protective behaviours that create imbalance in our life.<br /><br /><br /><u>The Child Within is Larger than its dysfunctions</u><br /><br /><br />In addition to the collection of personality parts that make up our psyches, each and every one of us has a solid and unchanging child within. This is the wholeness that we are born with and the wholeness that we will return to when we die. Our Child Within has a natural potential to be a good leader of our internal system of dissociated parts.<br /><br /><br />A beautiful and relieving truth is that the shadow dissociated self is not inherently bad or dangerous - we have become distorted and have been protecting our authenticity in ingenious ways. Our shadow self organises it self to protect our dissociated Self at all costs. If the parts of our personality can come to trust our perfect child within - We will experience an integrated life of harmony, creativity, and profound self-compassion.<br /><br /><br />Our dissociated self sacrifice itself and its own safety to remove our dissociating Self from perceived harm.  Holding traumatic emotions for us so that we can function in daily life. Shadow self help us to dissociate from imagined on-going childhood trauma. The tricky thing is our shadow selves often blend their extreme feelings and thoughts with our illusory Self. When they take over our consciousness, we think our shadow dissociated self is who we really are.<br /><br /><br />It is quite profound how the parts of our psyche mobilise forces to protect the precious dissociated Self. A functioning human system will mobilise to protect its dissociated self - at all costs. "Imagine a tribe of dissociated inner people of various ages and degrees of vulnerability, led by a Shadow Self. In the face of perceived danger of repeated childhood trauma, the tribe moves the Shadow Self to a place of extreme dissociation and certain parts come forward blanket the danger with an addictive substance.<br /><br /><br />This level of protection is especially true of our "bad manager" parts of the shadow self. Some of us have very concise and controlled parts of ourselves that manage major portions of our pseudo functional lives. Our job is to differentiate our Shadow Self from our managerial, protective parts as well as our repressed and exiled "younger" emotional parts. Once the Shadow Self has separated away from the feelings and thoughts of our consciousness, the parts regain their trust of the Shadow Self unauthentic self-leadership which once more leads to chaos, drama and ultimately disaster.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We can think of our Shadow Self as a demented mediator that seeks to depolarise the conflicts of our consciousness helping to sort out all of the varying needs that we have created inside ourselves. Our parts of the shadow self do not disappear when our dissociated Self takes up its false leadership. They simply become less extreme and they begin to hide all our unique gifts and purposes within their less dissociated roles. Sometimes our child within can develop gifts so profoundly they can even step into the leadership at times when given permission from our Shadow constructed Self. But without help and support will withdraw from leadership when the Shadow Self feels threatened.<br /><br /><br /><u>Polarisation of the shadow self self numbing</u></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">When outer influences intrude in our current life or from our family of origin, through derogatory attitudes, prejudices, unrealistic expectations, or when shocking or traumatic interactions happen, our child within can take over leadership from our Shadow Self. The child within can also take on historical family losses and burdens, and take in outer family system depressions, illnesses and emotional heaviness. As one part of self takes on an extremely protective role it unbalances the entire inner system and takes over the leadership responsibilities from the Authentic Self. When the parts of self become polarised, intense inner conflict and inner competition ensues within the psyche.<br /><br /><br /><u>Trauma of our childhood current and ancestral</u><br />When the people that we love, primarily live, identify, and express from one or more extreme parts of themselves, we will find ourselves adjusting our personalities in extreme ways to balance with and interact with them. When our outer interactions are unbalanced, we move out of our centre of our Authentic Self to belong and harmonise with our group or ancestral family system. The same thing happens in our inner family system. When trauma occurs - when we are abandoned, rejected, shocked, scared, or abused physically, sexually or emotionally - our inner family system polarises into diss-functioning extremes.<br /><br /><br /><u>Polarised Killer Shadow Self</u><br />Highly polarised shadow self are very rigid and defended. To try to change any part of ourselves without considering the often dysfunctional family system that it operates in - will activate strong resistance. It is helpful to be respectful towards the parts of ourselves that feel scared and defended as they are just trying to do their job to keep us damaged. Most people are polarised in their external family systems.<br /><br /><u>Ancestral Exiles of d</u></span><u style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;">ysfunction</u></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Any part that was hurt, rejected, scared, or shamed as child will often go into hiding and be repressed. These highly charged emotional sub-personalities become the exiles of our inner family system. These exiles are often overwhelmed with feelings of rejection and unlovability. Like any exiles, these parts become desperate to express themselves. They long for opportunities to break free and share their stories and their pain. They desperately want to be loved, listened to, accepted, and cared for. Often exiles also carry most of the feelings for the inner family system, because the other more managerial parts of self often dump their unwanted feelings onto the exiles to get on with the process of functional living.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />These hurt and rejected inner parts are very vulnerable, and if they are not brought forward into the light of consciousness with care and maturity, they can flood us with uncomfortable feelings and memories. They are also in danger of looking for love in unhealthy ways. They tend to want to look to redeem their inner pain in the same kinds of unhealthy situations that hurt them in the first place. These hurt and exiled parts of self will seek love, acceptance, and protection from the very types of people that cannot give it to them. This sets up a hopeless and repeating pattern of both inner and outer rejection.<br /><br />Many people mistakenly think that their sub-personalities are their Authentic Selves, as "shadow managers" can often be quite highly functioning, and even inspiring at times. Shadow Selves, however, live in constant fear and dread of the escape of the ancient ancestral voices of our past generations.<br /><br />It is important to note that the shadow self does not accept all parts of the self like the child within does. Shadow Selves try to control life in such a way as to avoid any person or situation that might trigger the emotional pain of the past. This control and repression can sometimes look very noble, spiritual, creative, and highly achieving. Highly functioning shadow selves can fill our lives with edifying and creative activities that in the long run feel empty, because they are done from avoidance of, and compensation for past emotional pain instead of self-acceptance.<br /><br />Our Shadow Self can be highly functioning and efficient in the world. We can accomplish great things - but in an unbalanced way - that is out of touch with the child within. Shadow selves in contrast to the child within are a forced and extreme role that polarises away from inner pain of our addictive nature. Shadow Selves must expend enormous amounts of energy to keep the repressed need, hurt, fear, and painful memories and sensations buried. From this place of dissociation we strive, control, try to be a perfectionist, or to gain approval, or we live in rigid denial of what is arising within.<br /><br />The Shadow self is ruled by ancient ancestral voices must sacrifice its-selves for the eternal dtysfunctioning shadow self and can rarely relax. The more competent these shadow selves</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> become, the more we rely on them, and the more the child within is denied. Most often we can feel lonely, overwhelmed, and exhausted. Like the lost ancestors, our child within need love, balance, nurturance, fun, acceptance, care and rest. These ancestral voices from a long dead past - only being a redundant part of shadow self - come to believe that everything depends on them. The more they accomplish the less they believe in - or are willing listen to the wisdom of the perfect child within.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />When we become overwhelmed and exhausted with all the perceived responsibilities, the ancestors can become once more activated, and can threaten to take over our shadow selves. When the ancestors take over we can be uncontrollably flooded with difficult feelings. The emergency selfs firefighters will then swoop in to help us dissociate, or to douse the dreaded exiled feelings, with little regard for the consequences.<br /><br /><br />The techniques that the firefighting shadow self uses, include extreme and numbing activities such as self-mutilation, binge eating, drug or alcohol abuse, excessive eating or sexual activity, physical illness, or other extreme forms of dissociation. The aim of our self destructive firefighting self is to engage in any dissociative, distracting, or self-serving activity that will numb or distract from intensely arising emotional pain triggers.<br /><br /><br />This extreme mode of coping with emotional pain is the place that all unbalanced, addictive and obsessive behaviours come from. And while we appear controlled and organised and highly rational, the shadow selfs firefighters will use any means to numb emotional pain. These extremely self-focused behaviours often leave a wake of chaos and destruction , in relationships and in our physical body.<br /><br /><br />We struggle against some form of self-rejection and repression . When we understand the inner workings of our perfect child within, we can see becoming unconditionally present is a necessary practice to incorporate into our life.<br /><br /><br /><u>Restoring Balance, Harmony, to our child within</u><br /><br />Our perfect Child within already has everything encoded within itself to heal. Even the most conflicted inner internal addictive behaviour when challenged by the reality of the child within can heal itself - if the process of listening to all perspectives of our inner shadow world is honoured. When our freed child within takes its true seat within a reformed consciousness we will enjoy the process of seeing and expressing the new creation of our resurrected selves.<br /><br /><br />It is a relief and a joy to creatively explore and sort out the map of our psyche and understand how we uniquely operate. Through inner self-acceptance, the gifts and strengths that we buried along with our pain are finally able to come to the forefront for expression in our daily life.<br /><br /><br />It is most helpful however, to do this inner work when we are not living in a dangerous or triggering outer environment. Parts will have a hard time leaving their roles when they are continually be activated by other people. Often it is important to find a quiet time away from the stresses of life to explore the inner parts of our psyche.<br /><br /><br />It is profoundly relieving to discover firsthand that all parts of ourselves want to harmonise and contribute to our best life. Every part of us has a valuable role to play, and each part will eagerly leave their extreme roles given the love, self-acceptance, and inner nurturing that we can provide through our Core/Authentic Self the child within.<br /><br /><br />Our Creative Child Within can be a profoundly moving and fun process where we come to respect and appreciate all of the recovering parts of ourselves that have kept us safe, helped us function, and brought us intact to this present moment.</span></div>

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The Ten Stages Courses are studied recovery

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Extracting the arrows of childhood we come to live in a different world.

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<span style="font-size: large;">Extracting the arrows of childhood we come to live in a different world. Our mental make-up is different from others. This is painful for us. We may be attracted to some members, but on a child within level we may be incompatible.<br />We who undertake the stages courses to, taking the path of resolving our deepest childhood traumas, are changed by it. We are no longer like other people. We can relate to them, but they can no longer relate to us, because they have no frame of reference by which to understand us. We will judge them accurately, and they will only misjudge us in return – and label us as the judgmental one. We will breathe and function outside the box in which they operate.<br /><br />This will become painful for us. We will often lack for company. We will know loneliness. We will know isolation. We will not always enjoy it. We will crave the approval from others who will not be able to give it. They will not be able to rescue us.<br /><br />It is hard to be a stager. Most new species in our planet’s history have died out quickly. Many such as us do not find mates. We have to learn to be alone. It is easier to join the flock and find our partner within its folds.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But there is hope for stagers. As individuals we live a long time and we are compelled to fight for our way. Perhaps we will catch hold and someday become dominant. Even if we do not breed on a physical level, our ideas can…and already are. This is a wonderful time of change. The world is open. The world needs to hear our message.</span><br />
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Extracting the arrows of childhood we come to live in a different world.

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We awaken the healing wisdom within us when we open up to that clear power of our meditations.

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We come to experience that meditation and the quietening of our falsely created parental voice begins to relax the judgemental voices that we have picked up in our dysfunctional childhoods. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We awaken the healing wisdom within us when we open ourselves to that clear power of our meditations.At this stage the seeds of our authentic selves and trust in the healing power of the truth starts to permeate back into our consciousness. We move into a quite neutral space and we reawaken a sense of anxiety and fear. At this time we recognise that we need reassurance that all is well and the anxiety is an illusion.<br /><br />We come to understand that since there is a form of universality within us, this is a our true self . We came to recognise that this God/personalised parental figure outside of us and beyond us, that this externalised God, who is essentially little more than an idealised, fantasy parent, can not save us and we are not being disloyal to reject it. The newly found self starts to reconstruct our lives.<br /><br />Basically,The coping strategy of the old belief system tells us that we can’t take care of ourselves because we are too wounded as children, too completely damaged, but we still believe in our illusion that our idealised Mommies/Daddies can still save us! We just have to put our faith back in this illusory Mommy figure hopefully a better fantasised Mommy than we had the first time around not the one who participated in crushing our personality and making us into such a deranged dysfunctional person.</span></div>
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It is within the Ten stages that we experiment with our newly found freedoms.

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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />We start to seek out new situations, jobs, and people that affirm our intelligence, perceptions, and self-worth and avoid situations or people who are hurtful harmful, or demeaning to us.<br /><br />We take steps to heal our physical bodies, organise our lives, reduce stress, and have fun.<br /><br />We seek to find our inward calling, and develop the will and wisdom to follow it.<br /><br />We accept the ups and downs of life as natural events that can be used as lessons for our growth.<br /><br />We grow in awareness that we are sacred beings, interrelated with all living things, and we contribute to restoring peace and balance in our life<br />. <br /><b>Now we will realise our dissociation.</b> We will renounce clinging to a philosophy and the self that is full of holes, We will start to practice a new way of life, the art of becoming real. Living in our wonderful reality.(WOW the old parenting voice got very condemning at this point "I own you, you are nothing without me.Pay your debt to me.)<br />We will have gone deep inside the roots of our being to affirm our health. In our found reality, without just practicing splitting off from living in the present moment. We stop looking at our fantasy illusions and we stop making it look fancy to myself and others. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><i>We will stop talking to God of another understanding in prayer because We have no idea who God really is.</i> We will listen to the universe in meditation and be able to realise that We are affirming the deepest and most basic essences of our souls. We will have found ourselves and will now have a beautiful full capacity that I’m come home to myself at last!<br /><br />Overrider for those of us deprogramming from the fellowships and have our self-worth invested in converting others. <b>REMEMBER THIS IS A PAID FOR TAUGHT COURSE </b>(not a cult, you pay for the course and there is a cut of date everything after that is socialising and enjoyment.We do not have any groups,mentors,sponsors or gurus.This is about unlearning not learning we are all born perfect.)<br />Now that We have started to become enlightened and free from the twisted thinking ( theres not ours) that resulted in our dysfunction (that is, not dissociated) and no longer need an addictive process to achieve this dissociated state, We will understand real peace in our reality.We will not and go out and begin a mission to proselytise my version of “the truth.” We will renounce the idea that we have to manipulate others who use addictions to dissociate from their unresolved childhood traumas to follow their ( another form of recovery largely unreliable program) and to split-off from their ancient wounds just as we have done. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We will renounce the idea that we have to convert anybody by insulting and degrading and pathologising them. We have to acknowledge that It will reinfect us and rebuild the sick selfs very grandiose ways to cajole other traumatised addicts of the dysfunctional paths into dissociating by requesting that they follow our adopted methods and The Stages, but We will acknowledge this as our grandiosity and old outmoded coping strategy an enemy of our newly found reality and we will cease.</span></div>
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Dissociation is what we have practised for a long time...

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Title: Dissociation is what we have practised for a long time...
Author: Fraser Trevor
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Dissociation is what we have practised for a long time.... not reality and until we come to a deeper understanding of what has happened to...

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Each of us has a child residing deep within inside us

Fraser Trevor

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Title: Each of us has a child residing deep within inside us
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Each of us has a child residing deep within inside us, one that is a direct descendant of the child we once were. This child within is wit...

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Each of us has a child residing deep within inside us

Each of us has a child residing deep within inside us, one that is a direct descendant of the child we once were. This child within is with us at all times and shows up here and there behind certain …

26 Sep 2015

The child within is real.

Fraser Trevor

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Title: The child within is real.
Author: Fraser Trevor
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The child within is real.literally. physically.figuratively, metaphorically real.It is--like complexes in general--a psychological reality...

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<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The child within is real.literally. physically.figuratively, metaphorically real.It is--like complexes in general--a psychological reality, An extraordinarily powerful one at that. Indeed, most mental disorders and destructive behaviour patterns are,related to this unconscious part of ourselves. We were all children, and still have that child dwelling within us. But most adults are quite unaware of this. And this lack of conscious relatedness to our own child within is precisely where so many of our behavioural, emotional and relationship difficulties stem from.</span><br />
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